You Can Choose to be Joyful - Gianna De Salvo
With so much beauty in the world around us, you'd think it would be fairly easy to feel joyful each and every day. But often life gets in the way and circumstances bog down our emotions with negativity, fear, and anxiety.
In You Can Choose to be Joyful, Gianna De Salvo offers realistic and science backed strategies on boosting our joy and allowing ourselves to become more positive and, well, joyful!
As an anxiety sufferer, I found a lot of the tips and strategies she recommended to be beneficial. The first step she outlines is to step back and observe your feelings for what they are. Too often we run away from anything we feel to be a negative or a potentially negative emotion/feeling and don't allow ourselves to mentally work through that. This usually leads to larger problems.
I liked that all the steps she outlined were ones that I could realistically fit into my lifestyle. Some of the books I've read call for enormous changes that I just can't plausibly make work in my day to day routine. But I've already found myself implementing some of the recommendations in this book and am benefiting from them.
Excellent and eye opening read.
Some Bio Information
Gianna De Salvo is a holistic therapist, born and raised in the suburbs of Chicago and now living and working in Wimbledon in South West London. Since 2007, she has been practising as a Cognitive Hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner, helping clients to tap into their inner resources and experience the world from a different perspective.
She is also an avid researcher into "modern" brain science, especially the vast amount of new information coming out of the fields of neuroscience and psychology, and has been practising meditation and mindfulness for the past eight years.
As a result of these practices, she has learned to calm her mind and experience the world around her once again with awe and wonder. She hopes to be able to encourage others to do the same and, in turn, help them along a path of lasting joy, rather than one of just fleeting happiness.
1) What inspired you to write this book?
One particular client inspired me to write this book. When I see people for holistic therapy sessions, I often provide handouts or teach my clients techniques that they can practice at home to rewire their brains towards joy. One client suggested that I create a booklet of information that explains the techniques and why they are useful. "Even better," I thought, "I'll put it all in a book."
2) Can you tell us a little bit about your writing process?
The writing process was based on a compilation of over ten years of practice and research and putting down in writing what has worked for me and those around me. When I sat down to actually write the book, I drew from that direct experience by explaining the science behind each technique in each chapter and ended each one with simple exercises that the reader could practice.
3) What types of readers would benefit the most from this book?
Based on feedback I have been given, people of all ages and cultures have benefitted from reading the book. Even if all of the exercises don't resonate with everyone, I have been told that there were key ones that have certainly made a significant positive impact to people's lives.
4) What do you hope that readers take away from your work?
I hope that they will take away the idea that through embracing emotions (even if they are uncomfortable) and living in the present moment, that they no longer need to feel enslaved by feelings or behaviours that aren't serving them. I want them to not only understand, but to experience themselves, that joy can be created which will have a lasting impact on the brain and help them to move quickly through the stress that life inevitably throws up.
5) Are there any additional resources you would recommend in the journey to finding joy?
I would like to stress that we, as humans, have all of the resources that we need inside of us to find joy already. We are born with an abundance of love, compassion, a desire to help others and a fundamental acceptance of ourselves. The reason we don't always believe that is down to personal experiences in which ideas to the contrary get downloaded into our brains and we start to believe them. Through reconnecting to the true selves inside of us all, we connect immediately with joy and can, in turn, change the unhelpful programmes we are running. It takes a bit of practice to realise this, but the training is worth it in the end.
6) What is the first step in successfully overcoming the obstacles that stand in our way?
The first step is the first chapter in the book - to feel your feelings. To really feel them and allow them space to be there and simply observe, with an open mind and curiosity, what your felt experiences in your life are. It sounds simple, but the brain's first reaction to uncomfortable feelings is to run away from them, which in turn can make them bigger. If we hide from the fears in our lives, for example, we can develop anxiety. Repressing guilt can lead to shame. Shining a light on these emotions is the first step towards owning and recognising them, which can then hjghlight the obstacles and allow them to naturally begin to shift.
7) What’s your ultimate writing goal?
My goal has always simply been to inform and to, hopefully, inspire people to make small changes to their everyday lives that will have a positive lasting impact on how they think, feel and act. Ultimately, I want everyone to experience the joyful and fulfilling lives they deserve