We are nearing November. . .quickly nearly November, I should say. Halloween is this Friday. Let’s just take a moment to appreciate how awesome it is that Halloween is on a Friday this year. Not that we’re planning on doing anything besides dressing our son up, taking some pictures, and possibly parading him around to a few houses for trick or treat. We might get a couple of trick or treaters at our house this year; we’re starting to accumulate more children in the neighborhood. When I moved in, there were only two. So we will probably stay home and hand out a few pieces of candy – I will eventually dump the entire bowl into a child’s bag and turn off our porch light.
I loved Halloween as a kid, but it was never about the trick or treating for me. I went a few times, but I usually attending church activities over going door to door. But I loved dressing up and I loved the whole concept of decorating your house in pumpkins, scarecrows, bats, and ghosts. And I loved handing out candy and seeing all the costumes.
And Halloween leads to Thanksgiving. So many people skip straight from Halloween to Christmas and I suppose that’s okay – to each his own. But in recent years, the new trend of listing daily thankful thoughts throughout the course of November has surfaced. And I am one of the people who find it horribly annoying. It is wonderful to remember what you’re thankful for, but this is something that should be done mentally on a daily basis throughout the year. We’re so quick to complain and very rarely consider all the good that is in our lives. But the continuous bombardment of it on my Facebook feed during the month of November is irritating and, quite frankly, seems shallow and half-hearted. Yes, we know you’re thankful for your awesome and amazing husband, your family, and your children. That should be obvious. But your posts during the other eleven months contradict those thankful statements.
What’s my point in all of this, you ask? We push to celebrate the holidays and society does a good job of shoving them in our faces – the materialistic side of it at least. Create a feast for Thanksgiving – a perfect feast! And buy all the presents for Christmas! Then create another perfect feast! Remember to be thankful! And you have to spend time with your families! It’s tradition!
My point is that maybe instead of focusing on the holiday so much, we should focus on the opportunities that they present. Everyone talks about how awkward family holidays are, and I’m guilty of that as well. There are always the relatives that you feel uncomfortable around. But maybe this year, we could give them the benefit of the doubt and not take it personally – no matter what they say or do. Celebrate that you have people to love who love you back and don’t focus so much on what you’re supposed to do and not supposed to do during these holidays. Just relax and enjoy being in the moment. That’s just my thought, at least.